I recently saw a movie "cocktail" but what a
disappointment it was. I mean these days I don't expect much from movies but
then also, But this movie did make me think a little, well I am sure it must
have made lot of other free spirited Indian women/men think as well :)...
about Indian mentality and maybe there is a little truth in it or maybe I am
hallucinating :) but it’s just a random thought :).
Well in the movie we see how the guy Gautam falls for the sweet
and simple Meera whereas going out with the seemingly wild girl Veronica. I
have seen the English movie from which I think this movie is inspired and after
watching that movie I was like wow... I still remember that movie and the
character Christina, but I know Indian mass audience is not ready for the
character Christina yet but then also to make Veronica such a miserable
character was not expected.
And then I read about Chetan Bhagat's article and various other
articles about the movie. The thing which I didn't like about Chatan Bhagat's
article was that he avoided the main issue; the movie was not about career
women and home makers but about the wild ones and the seemingly conservative ones.
Well in no way Meera was just a home maker and Veronica a high profile career
women. The only thing was that she was more outgoing and wild and Meera was
more conservative. Well it was Gautam who was confused, he thought he was the
ultra cool mega bonus for girls but in the end he came out to be the same narrow
minded male specimen :)... the one who can't handle the wild
Well then I saw a serial called Sex and the city, well there the
male was not Indian but then also he chose a girl more conservative than the wild
one. Well here I can't put the blame on Indian mentality so it must be with
-men-tal-ity. How apt the word is as it contains men, mental and mentality.
Well so what exactly is wrong with the mentality? The problem in my opinion
according to a serial aired on National Geographic lies with their genes,
actually the men are more protective and they look for somebody whom they can
protect. Men see themselves as providers and they look for somebody for
whom they can provide for. If we see other species of animal we can see how the
male species protect their territory and female species. So is with human species,
as at the root we do belong to animal kingdom.
But we are social animals and our mind work according to the
experience we have had and that’s the problem. In my opinion the men in India
live a very limited and protective life. They are changing but it takes time,
nobody wants to be alone and the men specially needs assurance that he will
always be provided with love and care and what better way to find a girl who
will always need him to be around. I am not against loving relationship but I
believe in equality and the men sometimes fail to understand that. It’s not
their fault also because we women also like to be protected so it’s a vicious
circle where we all are confused about what we want and how to find the
balance. I somewhere read that people attract people they want in their life
but the problem comes where we are confused what we actually want.
