Indian Mocktail....

I recently saw a movie "cocktail" but what a disappointment it was. I mean these days I don't expect much from movies but then also, But this movie did make me think a little, well I am sure it must have made lot of other free spirited Indian women/men think as well :)... about Indian mentality and maybe there is a little truth in it or maybe I am hallucinating :) but it’s just a random thought :).

Well in the movie we see how the guy Gautam falls for the sweet and simple Meera whereas going out with the seemingly wild girl Veronica. I have seen the English movie from which I think this movie is inspired and after watching that movie I was like wow... I still remember that movie and the character Christina, but I know Indian mass audience is not ready for the character Christina yet but then also to make Veronica such a miserable character was not expected.

And then I read about Chetan Bhagat's article and various other articles about the movie. The thing which I didn't like about Chatan Bhagat's article was that he avoided the main issue; the movie was not about career women and home makers but about the wild ones and the seemingly conservative ones. Well in no way Meera was just a home maker and Veronica a high profile career women. The only thing was that she was more outgoing and wild and Meera was more conservative. Well it was Gautam who was confused, he thought he was the ultra cool mega bonus for girls but in the end he came out to be the same narrow minded male specimen :)... the one who can't handle the wild

Well then I saw a serial called Sex and the city, well there the male was not Indian but then also he chose a girl more conservative than the wild one. Well here I can't put the blame on Indian mentality so it must be with -men-tal-ity. How apt the word is as it contains men, mental and mentality. Well so what exactly is wrong with the mentality? The problem in my opinion according to a serial aired on National Geographic lies with their genes, actually the men are more protective and they look for somebody whom they can protect. Men see themselves as providers and they look for somebody for whom they can provide for. If we see other species of animal we can see how the male species protect their territory and female species. So is with human species, as at the root we do belong to animal kingdom.

But we are social animals and our mind work according to the experience we have had and that’s the problem. In my opinion the men in India live a very limited and protective life. They are changing but it takes time, nobody wants to be alone and the men specially needs assurance that he will always be provided with love and care and what better way to find a girl who will always need him to be around. I am not against loving relationship but I believe in equality and the men sometimes fail to understand that. It’s not their fault also because we women also like to be protected so it’s a vicious circle where we all are confused about what we want and how to find the balance. I somewhere read that people attract people they want in their life but the problem comes where we are confused what we actually want. 

Sportsmanship??

There was an article in Delhi Times today about how Andy Murray lacked sportsmanship spirit 'cause he cried after losing the match to Federer, but i want to ask people that what is wrong in showing some emotion on the field? Is sportsman supposed to be without emotion? How few tears make him less of a sportsman? It just means that how hard he tried and how sad he felt after losing.

I remember Roger Federer also crying when he lost the title to Nadal once. But losing and winning is part of the game and the person who loose does feel loss and if he sheds few tears then whats the harm? Sometimes while preaching the winner we forget about the looser and that he has also put in all the hard work for the game. 

Anyways I just want to say that Federer is the god of tennis then other players can also be demi gods :)... Preach but don't over preach...

Touching Untouchability....

Today I was watching Satyamev Jayate, Aamir khan's program and his subject was untouchability and that how it’s still there and how it’s deeply ingrained in people's mind. I don't know why our thinking is like this why we still believe in all these superstition and all the things which we know are baseless and narrow minded but  I also know that human being can be the cruellest animal in the whole animal kingdom. 

In India we always talk of preserving our tradition our customs but do we really need to preserve all these things? Who remember the things which actually brought these things into being. The Brahmins in India support caste system based on the writings in Shatras they say. One of the paragraphs shown on the show really caught my interest and I want to elaborate on that...

It was a scene where a Brahmin is telling about the caste system he says the following...from the laws of Manu

From his mouth god created Brahman (Priest)

His arms Kshatriyas (ruler)

His thighs Vishay’s (commoner)

His feet the shudras (servant)

My teacher once told me that how we interpret things also depends on us and it’s our weaknesses which make us take the wrong interpretation so that the work becomes easier for us. I think the meaning of this paragraph was something else and we have made it something else. These are our weaknesses which make us do all the stupid things like superstition, caste ism, etc. The Brahmans to make themselves supreme has brought all these things into being and I am sure they will be punished severely by the lord who they claim to preach 'cause as a person of god, Brahman should be the first person to respect everything created by the lord. So I really hope that this initiative taken by Aamir will become our initiative too.